5 things that children teach adults.
“To grow up is to wonder about things; to be grown up is to slowly forget the things you wondered about as a child.”
― Henning Mankell, When the Snow Fell
The first thing that children ( especially the youngest ones) teach us is, not to worry about what others think. Just look at a little girl how she chooses her outfit. White dress matched with dark tights and a colorful hat. She does not spend time wondering if others will like it, or if the pieces go together .She loves it. What is more ,she feels beautiful in it and that is all that matters. No thought spent on worrying or comparing with others. Perhaps, as adults, we should go in their footsteps and give up all the uncertainty and anxiousness about others’ opinions. Let our true selves sparkle.
2. Live at the present.
Children are always present. They think very little of the tomorrow and put aside all the worries and stress They enjoy small things and appreciate the little gifts of the day, instead of waiting for the things to come. They love to be busy and play around. Children notice the things around them and make the best use of them. Even playing with sand and water can be the top experience of the day, brining endless fun and joy.
Watching toddlers play can make us realize that each day is given to us only once. Living at the present is stronly connected to minduflness. Being aware of our curent thougths and relishing what is happening now is a great form of practicing mindfulness. Studies suggest that frequent mindfulness and living at the present can boost our immune system and reduce strees. Another wonderful form of living at the present is art. Take your child to the park and draw a picture of them. You would be surprised how many little details your child notices. The reason for that is because they are present in the moment!
3. Start every day with a smile!
As simple as it may sound, it is a vital lesson from our little ones. Just think of the last few weeks’ mornings. Did you welcome the day with a smile? Or perhaps, you would resort to comments like: It’s so early. My back hurst. I wish I could sleep for another hour. Oh no, what a terrible weather outside.
Now, obverve your child’s mornings. They’re most likely excited and happy about the coming day. Even though , they might still be rubbing their eyes, you will not hear a complaint from them. At the end of a day, this day is a gift and, even though is might not seem like it, it will be like no other day.
4. Love unconditionally.
Our children love us unconditionally. Even when we have a worse day, our children’s love to us does not change. They are quick to forgive and delighted to give. Moreover, they do not expect things in return. It is us, adults that often, mistakenly, think that we have to give a lot of tangible gifts to others, to get their appretiation. Once, we become parents, we learn to love those little human beings beyond any limits. The bond is believed to be stronger than any obstacles. There are no struggles for a mother if she sees her child happy.
All this time
The Sun never says to the Earth,
“You owe me.”
With a love like that,
It lights the whole sky.”
5. Be carefree.
“Let us dance in the sun, wearing wild flowers in our hair…”
― Susan Polis Schutz
Children do not dwell on their limitations . If they fall, they stand up and carry on walking. If they have a tantrum, once they come down, they carry on as if nothing has ever happened.
They dance, sing, play and run a lot. Wonderfully, they have no fear of being judged. Perhaps, this is what, often stops adults from being who they truly wish. They use their imagination as a navigation. What is more, they are free of the standard expectations that are created in social environments. Enjoying the life and experiencing things around them actively. We should become the same. Next time you meet someone new, before you make judgements about them, see how many new things you can learn from them. Allow everything and everybody around to bring joy and excitement. Put all the assumptions and stress aside.
“If you carry your childhood with you, you never become older.”Tom Stoppard